There are many e-mail lists for members of the LDS
church. There are also many e-mail lists for women who are in or
have been in abusive relationships. However, there was not one single
list that provided support for LDS women who are currently in, or who have
been in abusive relationships. For this reason, I wanted to create
"This is a list for LDS women who have experiences,
or are currently
experiencing spousal abuse in some form. It can be
emotional, physical, sexual, or psychological.
If you are fearful of the possibility of your
messages from this list, or finding out you are on such a
list you are encouraged you to get a private, and free
e-mail account separate and apart from the one you and
your spouse have access to.
The purpose of this list is to help sisters in
to feel they are not alone. Hopefully there will be
occasional posts with official information from different
members on the list from time to time to keep us focused.
I have found a scripture that I feel inspired
should be the
theme of this list.
And if men come unto
me I will show unto them their
weakness. I give unto men weakness that they may be
humble; and my grace is sufficient for all men that
humble themselves before me; for if they humble
themselves before me and have faith in me, then will I
make weak things become strong unto them.**
I feel this scripture states that our weakness,
being trial of
living in an abusive situation, is given to us to make us
strong. I feel we can strengthen each other by coming
together and offering support in this way. It is my humble
wish that we can all become stronger because of our
situations and with the help of each other are able to
continue in strength.
With all that behind us.. the basic guidelines
1. please start off with an introduction and
background of your circumstances. It doesn't have to be
right away. You can lurk for a bit (after you are added of
corse) and decide if this is something for you. Once you
decide to stay please introduce yourself. I encourage you
to keep a copy of every introduction you receive to help
you get to know all on the list. This will also help us get to
2. This is not a list where flaming can be tolerated
any circumstances. The reason being many have such
fragile spirits already that they can't take any flames. I
must remain firm on this. What constitutes as a flame is
A. Name Calling
B. Deliberate attempts to demean the other
C. Accusations or public (meaning to all on list)
slaughtering of the other that have no basis for fact.
I'm hoping that We will never have to worry about
the above. This is why I'm not being any more specific.
Its highly possible that someone will have had a bad day
and miss-interpret the words of another.
3. No forwarding the messages you receive to
list. The reason for this is there is a possibility that the
privacy of the members of this list can be violated and
messages can be returned to them from members not on
4. No badgering the person to leave their situation.
purpose of this list is to help the woman empower herself
and make the decision to leave or stay on her own. If she
asks our opinion we give it and let her make the decision
based upon prayer.
It's my sincere hope that this list will be only
spiritual, and a support to all on it.
Mary Brownell "
If you are interested in being on this list, please
contact me by clicking on my name. I will send you more info.
When sending me a request for info, please include a brief discription
of your circumstances. I ask this because privacy on this list is
my top priority and I want to take every precaution to avoiding vengeful
husbands/boyfriends from comming onto the list under false pretenses.
I hope you all understand this .